A Girl’s Lament: Sex, Love, and America’s Teens

According to John Paul, one consequence of removing human sexuality from the context of married love is the depersonalization of the human body. The body becomes nothing more than an object for use, while the broader and deeper requirements of human dignity and happiness are ignored.

The evidence suggests that modern rules of teenage courtship are more likely to be enforced by dominant boys than passionate girls. In this uneven playing field, male aggression has replaced the code of chivalry. Girls must now contend with an isolated and brutal adolescent world that operates with almost complete independence from adult authority. Why be surprised, then, to learn that a recent survey disclosed that most adolescent girls, isolated from any more hopeful vision, accept coercive sex as their boyfriends’ due. And as their sense of worthlessness deepens, girls punish their bodies, using them as scapegoats for their conflicted feelings. The emotional turbulence helps to feed the cycle of repeat abortions, coercive sex, pregnancy, and self-mutilation.

American girls cannot flee from such a culture without turning their backs on the liberationist ideals of the ’60s.

While feminist authors search for solutions in an arid land blighted by selfishness and despair, they bypass the verdant garden of human love nourished by Christian virtue and truth. In this garden, the female body is not an object for manipulation, but an expression of a person and her deepest beliefs. When teenage girls practice sexual abstinence, saving the gift of their bodies for their future spouse, they teach boys how to accept all the rich values that constitute their lives as growing women.


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December 8, 2011 · 11:20

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